Emotional Self-help: Heal From The Inside

Emotional wounds are an obstacle to moving forward. And there is no one better than ourselves to cure them, make them heal and learn from the circumstances that caused them.

At some point in life we ​​have suffered or been hurt and, possibly, we have regretted some things that we should not have done. This is when we need emotional self-help.

The big problem we have is that we look back and see that we have not yet solved all that has damaged us. Therefore, even today, our lives can be clouded by that pain. This may be because we have not been able to ‘help ourselves’.

According to research published in the Journal of the Spanish Association of Neuropsychiatry, self-help and advice are not the same. However, it seems that the two ideas may overlap at times.

Thus, the ‘self-help’ individual, according to the researchers, is self-regulating and defined by certain traits : authenticity, self-acceptance, blamelessness, rejection of externally imposed duties and a search for an independence that makes him alien to the disapproval or approval of others.

Emotional self-help: the key to moving forward

When we don’t solve our problems, wounds can settle on us. This makes us build a barrier that protects us from all that we do not want to suffer again. But why should we suffer again? Shouldn’t everything already be solved?

Emotional wounds, like physical wounds, need to be healed. If we do not cure them, they can continue to ‘fester’ throughout life, reminding us of everything that hurt us and still does.

Emotional self-help can be very necessary for us to begin to heal. Well, although others guide us and tell us how we should overcome the experiences we have lived, only we can heal our own wounds.

We all have the ability to heal ourselves emotionally. It is not something easy, emotional self-help is something that we have to be aware of and then put into practice in the correct way.

It is good to learn to cultivate emotional self-healing to allow ourselves to be happy and heal the wounds that lead to nothing but suffering and rumination.

Self-knowledge is key

In order to heal wounds, the first thing we must do is deepen in self-knowledge. The first ally that we must make when it comes to healing and moving forward is in ourselves.

Here are some tips that can be useful when it comes to harnessing that self-knowledge as a strength to keep going.

1. Don’t run away from your feelings

We know that feelings can sometimes be painful and, like when we are in fear, our first reaction may be to run away.

But escaping from them is not going to solve the problem. In any case, it can aggravate it. Acknowledge and accept your pain, endure it, feel it, and then get over it. Facing the problem, even if it hurts too much, will make you stronger even if you don’t believe it.

2. Don’t judge yourself

You cannot judge your emotions because you simply cannot control them. Feeling anger, sadness, hatred … is not something you can decide when to feel it and when not to.

• That is why we cannot judge these emotions as “negative emotions.” They are natural reactions caused by a circumstance.

Also, don’t you understand your emotions? Look for the origin of them. Why do you hold a grudge? Because you hate? Something has caused these emotions and you must learn to understand why in order to start accepting them. This will allow you to understand, accept, and will be an important step in starting to heal. And remember that you can also seek help from a professional.

3. Self-help is embracing mixed feelings

We all have mixed feelings, especially when we feel hurt. But are you going to deny them or put them aside? This reaction will not help you in your emotional self-help, quite the opposite.

That is why you must accept and embrace those feelings. Only then can you begin to see some light among all that discomfort that they are creating for you.

4. Eliminate irrational beliefs

Why me? What have I done to deserve this? These are questions that, at times, address our mind, confusing us and preventing us from overcoming what has damaged us so much.

• For that, the first step is to forgive.
• But do not forgive others, we have begin to forgive ourselves.

You are not to blame for having gone through such a negative circumstance in your life, just as another person does not have to be guilty, the circumstances and the wrong moment were simply found. Forgiving will liberate you and will be a balm that will allow you to heal.

5. With emotional self-help, Learn and grow!

All experiences, whether positive or negative, will be a great opportunity to continue learning and growing. Not because they are negative they have to block and paralyze us.

If you have been able to put into practice the previous tips on emotional self-help, you will know that you can get something very good out of all the bad, you will learn and grow!

Emotional self-help is an ally

If you do not practice emotional self-help or seek professional help, you will continue to fall and suffer the same mistakes always. This will plunge you into a deep sadness and disappointment that will prevent you from moving forward in life.

That is why you should try to heal and heal wounds as soon as you can. Time goes by fast so learn fast!

Note: Self-help may not be enough. We recommend consulting with a psychologist if you need help managing your emotions or have persistent concerns.