When You Allow Yourself What You Deserve, You Attract What You Need

We are sure you know what yours need. You attend to the needs of your partner, your parents and your children every day, because you love them and because you care about them. Now, do you also worry about what you need every day ? Sometimes it is complicated. In fact, many people tend to think that “if others are okay, I’m okay.”

It is clear that offering happiness to others, as well as security, covering all their needs, is essential. However, we must never forget that we also deserve to allow ourselves things, take care of ourselves, take care of ourselves …

Enjoying our identity, our spaces and time, cultivating good self-esteem is essential, and today we invite you to reflect on it with us.

My needs, your needs

Not long ago we told you about “Wendy’s Syndrome.” Within popular psychology, any person characterized by the following behaviors is labeled ” Wendy ” :

• Attend to others at all times, prioritizing the partner or family over oneself.

• The fact of caring, caring for and satisfying every need of others, makes the person characterized by “Wendy syndrome” happy. It is useful, and that is also his way of offering love.

• There always comes a time when the person realizes that he is offering his whole being, without receiving anything in return. Her self-esteem is fragile and, at the same time, she fears being abandoned and ceasing to be “useful” to others.

It is possible that in your case you have not reached these extremes. However, the most common thing that we can feel in our day to day is the following:

• The feeling of “being trapped”. You have your job but, at the same time, you fulfill your obligations at home, with your children, and maybe even with your parents or an elderly person.

• Every day you are expected to do the same, that you strive in the same way, and that your physical and emotional disposition never change. You are that woman who attends to others with love and total openness.

• Others don’t seem to realize that you don’t have “time for yourself.” They take it almost for granted that you are happy doing each task, taking time away from one part to invest in those who ask you.

• When night comes, you regret not having had a moment to yourself, and you close your eyes wearily thinking that the same obligations await you the next day.

• If this type of behavior is prolonged for a long time, you run the risk of falling into a state of anxiety. Your mind may schedule all these tasks each day, but your body will not be able to respond.

• Nervousness, tiredness, and blood cortisol levels will start to take a toll on your physical health. And, as for your emotional balance, you will gradually realize that you have built a kind of prison from which you do not know how to get out.

We invite you to put the following strategies into practice. It is common for women to be more prone to states of anxiety and stress. Learn 7 practical tips to combat them

What you deserve, what you need

“When you allow yourself what you deserve, you attract what you need. ” Think carefully about this phrase and apply it in your day to day to look at what you need. We explain how to do it.

Giving you what you deserve is not being selfish

• There are those who maintain the erroneous idea that having a high self-esteem is bordering on selfishness by prioritizing oneself. Nothing could be further from the truth.

• The first thing you should be clear about is that you deserve to be happy. If your life is dominated by stress and anxiety, by prioritizing others before yourself, in the end, you will fall ill.

How are you going to serve yours in this way? No problem. So be clear that offering you what you deserve  is to act with integrity.

• Throughout the day you should dedicate at least  two hours to yourself. Invest them in what makes you happy, that allows you to disconnect and develop your personal growth.

• Learn to say no. And by doing so, by voicing your opinion and your needs, you are not selfish either. You are realistic. If you don’t want to do that task that your sister or a friend asked you, say so. If you don’t want to fulfill what your partner asks of you at any given time, say so. Sincerity will make you unload a lot of weight.

Enjoying what you really deserve sets you free

• The moment you start to enjoy what you have allowed yourself, things will start to change. For what reason? Because you will recognize yourself, because you will value yourself, because your self-esteem will rise and you will realize what you are worth. What you deserve.

• If others don’t realize your worth, show it. You are not only able to take care of them, attend to them and love them. You are also capable of loving yourself and facilitating your own personal growth.

Start today to prioritize a little more and take into account what you need. Find your relaxing spaces, practice your hobbies, enrich yourself with your social relationships and always think that you are important in the story of your life. You are the protagonist.